Xbian pi mysql issue

[phyzical]

Hello, i have a custom mysql db stored on my n40l, my xbmc on the n40l can load the DB fine and movies and shows appear fine, Also on my laptop accessing the db is fine and displays as the n40l does but when i try this with my rasp pi running xbian beta 2, it feels as if the advancedsettings.xml i edited isnt being run becouse it just displays what i scanned into the pi before creating the said mysql server. ive tried running the pi with usb install and without usb install. i read in the mysql wiki page that diffrent versions of xbmc wont work, both laptop and server are running the latest gotham build and the pi is running the latest xbian gotham which is technically beta2 i think? could this be the cause?

attached is my advanced settings, the db settings are exactly the same across all 3 devices thanks.

Code:

<advancedsettings>
   <network>
        <cachemembuffersize>20971520</cachemembuffersize>
   </network>
   <fanartres>720</fanartres>
   <imageres>540</imageres>
   <gputempcommand>echo "$(/opt/vc/bin/vcgencmd measure_temp | grep -o "[0-9]\{2\}") C"</gputempcommand>
   <cputempcommand>echo "$(/opt/vc/bin/vcgencmd measure_temp | grep -o "[0-9]\{2\}") C"</cputempcommand>
   <lookandfeel>
        <webserver>true</webserver>
        <guires>1080</guires>
   </lookandfeel>
   <bginfoloadermaxthreads>5</bginfoloadermaxthreads>
   <video>
     <adjustrefreshrate>  
       <override>
         <fps>23.976</fps>
         <refresh>24.0</refresh>
       </override>
     </adjustrefreshrate>
   </video>
    <gui>
        <algorithmdirtyregions>3</algorithmdirtyregions>
        <nofliptimeout>0</nofliptimeout>
        <visualizedirtyregions>false</visualizedirtyregions>
    </gui>
    <destroywindowcontrols>0</destroywindowcontrols>
    <useddsfanart>0</useddsfanart>
  <videodatabase>
    <type>mysql</type>
    <host>myServer</host>
    <port>6009</port>
    <user>xbmc</user>
    <pass>-</pass>
    <name>theDB</name>
  </videodatabase>

  <musicdatabase>
    <type>mysql</type>
    <host>myServer</host>
    <port>6009</port>
    <user>xbmc</user>
    <pass>-</pass>
    <name>theDB</name>
  </musicdatabase>
</advancedsettings>

[phyzical]

update: i decided to install open elec 4.0 and it sees the db fine so i guess the latest xbian build isnt considered the "same" to the db.